Updated: Dec 13, 2021
Guest Post Author: Sophia Young
Your big day doesn’t mean big spending. Your wedding should be a reflection of you and you're beloved. No amount of money can replace a small, intimate affair with close friends and family.
Plenty of couples make the mistake of “playing all their cards” at the wedding. How much you spend on your wedding is ultimately up to you. Of course, you should still think of what you could spend all that money on instead.
If you aren’t convinced, here are 5 things that you should consider over a lavish wedding.
Custom Engagement Ring
Now that you’ve saved on the reception, get personal with your engagement ring. You don’t have to go with the gaudy, giant diamond. A simple engagement calls for simple wedding rings. Create a ring that means something deep for both of you. Perhaps the gemstone is your favorite color. The stone could be an important item to your significant other. The band can be any color besides the usual silver and gold.
Certain bands could also have inscriptions on them. The inscription could be anything from a joke to a heartfelt quote. The gemstone doesn’t even have to be a traditional shape. You could make it stand out with a heart shape. Perhaps an elaborate flower design that also minimizes the use of expensive gems.
There’s plenty of ideas you could go with. Look back on your entire romance. Does anything stick out? Put those feelings and memories into the ring you commission. A wedding ring that means something to the wearer is worth more than any expensive gemstone.
Donate to Charity
There is no greater gift than one you give to a stranger in need. Donating to charity isn’t usually on people’s minds during a wedding, but why shouldn’t it be? Think of all the factors that got you and your significant other together. Give back and spread more joy.
When thinking of a charity to donate to, think of things relevant to both of you. Did you, against all odds, survive a near-fatal disease? Consider donating to a research center dedicated to curing it. Do you have a dream career that you gave up on due to its difficult state? Donate to a charity that supports young professionals in that industry.
Do your due research on any organization you donate to. Only donate to trusted and established non-profits in the community. A simple google search could save you from donating to the wrong cause. Your decision to have a micro wedding could change someone else’s life.
You don’t have to spend all this money. Just spend enough to check off a few items from your bucket list. Was there a hot ticket item you’ve always wanted to own? Is there a restaurant you could never afford before? Don’t think too much. Treating yourself (reasonably) is just as important as saving money. We earn to live, not live to earn.
Besides luxury items, perhaps you need more practical items. Is there an appliance that you’ve always needed but couldn’t afford? Does work require you to buy a new laptop or desktop? Practical items are also a way of treating yourself.
Go All Out On Your Honeymoon
Remember, a marriage isn’t to impress your family and friends. Your loved ones will love whatever wedding you decide to have as long as you’re happy. Instead of a wedding where you have to entertain guests and plan for months on end, splurge on your honeymoon. A long vacation traveling the world in style is more memorable than a traditional wedding.
Talk closely with your partner about this. A vacation won’t be as stressful to plan as a wedding. After all, your biggest worry is how much you two will be enjoying it. No guests to feed or keep entertained. You don’t even have to go out of the country. Think of places locally that you could never afford before. Treat yourself to a great honeymoon period. After all, you’re married!
Use It For Your Mortgage
Once the honeymoon is over, you have to find somewhere to live. While one of you may have an apartment, a house is something special. Instead of a lavish wedding, use those extra funds for your first mortgage. This is a major asset in your journey into homeownership. When choosing a house, think long-term. This won’t be a temporary stay. You have to believe you’ll be living in this house for the rest of your life
Not having a lavish wedding also helps in different ways. In addition to the money saved, your credit is also likely much better without the expenses of a lavish wedding. Couples have the flexibility to go for a joint account or have it under the breadwinner’s name. Unlike a lot of first-time couples who find themselves struggling, you will be having an easier start.
When your future children ask you why your wedding was so simple, tell them to look around. Your small wedding paid for their future.
"ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Sophia Young recently quit a non-writing job to finally be able to tell stories and paint the world through her words. She loves talking about fashion and weddings and travel, but she can also easily kick ass with a thousand-word article about the latest marketing and business trends, finance-related topics, and can probably even whip up a nice heart-warming article about family life. She can totally go from fashion guru to your friendly neighborhood cat lady with mean budgeting skills and home tips real quick."